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Writing a Birth Plan

fuckyeahsexeducation:

Step 1: Imagine the Perfect Birth

  • Does not have to be realistic at all; it can involve multiple locations, deceased relatives, a TARDIS, or anything else you can think of.

Questions to get you started:

1. If you could labor and deliver your baby anywhere in the world and in any setting, without worrying about safety where would it be? Would you like to be in one place the entire time or multiple places?

2. Answer these questions for each stage of labor in your dream birth; early labor, active labor, pushing, and the first hour of your baby’s life

  • Where are you?
  • Who is with you?
  • What do you hear?
  • What do you see?
  • What do you smell?
  • What do you feel?
  • What or who helps you in this place to feel calm?

3. When you are in pain, what types of personal comforts do you like to use?

4. Where do you hold tension in your body, and what helps you let it go?

5. What is your biggest fear about labor and delivery? What helps relieve this fear?

Step 2: Plan the whole birth, not just the medical parts.

  • Share this with your partner, maybe have your partner write one too!
  • What elements from your imaginary birth are important to include in the actual birth? Consider:

1. Whom to invite

  • who makes you feel safe, comforted, and supported? Make sure they don’t make you feel inhibited, criticized, or upset.
  • Choose based on your need, not their happiness.

2. Other life changing, important, or family related events

  • Was there anything that made you feel resentful or other negative emotions?
  • What commonality could cause problems during labor?
  • What do you remember most vividly?
  • What moment do you treasure most?
  • What moment do you regret?
  • Whose presence made it extra special?
  • When you give others advice about how to plan such an event, what do you tell them?
  • How did you handle decision making when something did not go as planned?
  • If you could do it again what would you change, what would you keep the same?

3. Think back to times in your life where you handled a mental endurance test, a physical endurance test, and handled an emotional endurance test. 

  • What activity have you done that took the most out of you?
  • What activity did you do that you were most proud of?
  • What activity did you do that required the most endurance?
  • What are five ways you have found extra oomph?
  • Where do your thoughts go when doing something physically painful? What do you think about? What do you say to yourself?
  • Does the thought of physical trial and accomplishment scare you? Thrill you? Both?
  • What helps you relax most? Describe the most relaxing experience of your life.
  • Name 3 activities that make the passing of time seem instant

4. Now write up your plan! Here are some prompts to get you started

  • What elements in your environment help you freely express yourself without inhibitions?
  • What helps you achieve feelings of peace?
  • What allows you to look inward for depths you have never reached before?
  • Who should be at your baby’s birth?
  • Who has important relationships with you and your new baby? How will you honor these relationships and needs during labor?
  • How can you set up the birth room to provide the sights, sounds, and smells that you want to experience?

Step 3: Write up just the medical parts of your birth plan.

  • This will be shared with your birthing team, doctors, midwives, nurses, and attendants 
  • Plan should be succinct and easy to read in a few minutes
  • plan should sound polite, respectful, and positive
  • use positive statements rather than negative (I want instead of I don’t want)
  • add anything unique to your situation
  • What is the essential message you’d like to communicate to your team? Can you compress the whole thing into just a couple of sentences that explains your birthing philosophy?

1. Areas you may want to cover

  • Beginning labor: want to do it naturally? What if you’re past your due date? What about if your water breaks before contractions begin?
  • Labor: Do you want pain medication? Do you want to delay pain medication? How do you want to take care of the pain?
  • Second state of labor: are you okay with an episiotomy?
  • If you need a cesarean section: Do you want to be conscious? Do you want your partner there?
  • After birth: Do you want to hold your baby immediately? do you want to delay cord clamping? Do you want to feed? Do you want to roomshare?
  • Finalize your plan between months 5-8 to share with your doctor.

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cornersofmind:

Teen Movies: 8tracks Collection

I want John Cusack holding a boombox outside my window. I wanna ride off on a lawnmower with Patrick Dempsey. I want Jake from Sixteen Candles waiting outside the church for me. I want Judd Nelson thrusting his fist into the air because he knows he got me. Just once I want my life to be like an 80’s movie, preferably one with a really awesome musical number for no apparent reason.

80s Boombox: 01. The Breakfast Club - Don’t You Forget About Me; Simple Minds | 02. Say AnythingIn Your Eyes; Peter Gabriel 03. Dirty Dancing - Eyes; Eric Carmen | 04. Pretty In Pink - If You Leave; Orchestral Manoeuvres In The Dark | 05. Some Kind Of Wonderful She Loves Me; Stephen Duffy | 06.  Valley GirlI Melt With You Modern English | 07. Sixteen Candles - True; Spandau Ballet | 08. Pretty In Pink - Try A Little Tenderness; Otis Redding | 09. Dirty Dancing The Time Of My Life; Bill Medley & Jennifer Warnes | 10. Top Gun Take My Breath Away; Berlin | 11. Sixteen Candles If You Were Here; Thompson Twins | 12. Mannequin - Nothing’s Gonna Stop Us Now; Starship | 13. Some Kind Of WonderfulAbuse (Dr. Mabuse Remix); Propaganda | 14. Back To The FuturePower of Love; Huey Lewis and the News | 15. Can’t Buy Me LoveAll Night; Randy Hall | 16. The Breakfast ClubWe Are Not Alone; Karla DeVito | 17. St. Elmo’s Street - Man In Motion; John Parr | 18. Footloose - Footloose; Kenny Loggins | 19. Risky Business - Old Time Rock N Roll; Bob Seger | 20. Ferris Bueller’s Day OffTwist And Shout; The Beatles | 21. Back To The Future - Johnny B. Goode; Chuck Berry | 22. The Blues Brothers Shake A Tail Feather; The Blues Brothers feat. Ray Charles | 23. Flashdance - What A Feeling; Irene Cara | 24.  Can’t Buy Me Love - Can’t Buy Me Love; The Beatles | 25. Happy TogetherHappy Together; The Turtles | 26. Dream A Little DreamDream A Little Dream Me; Mel Tormé and Mickey Thomas | 27. Real GeniusEverybody Wants To Rule The World; Tears For Fears | 28. HeathersTeenage Suicide (Don’t Do It); Big Fun 29. Weird Science - Weird Science; Oingo Boingo | 30. Ferris Bueller’s Day Off - Oh Yeah; Yello. [LISTEN] 

90s Discman: 01. Cruel Intentions - Bittersweet Symphony; The Verve | 02. Romeo + Juliet - Lovefool; The Cardigans. | 03. ArmagedonI Don’t Want To Miss A Thing Aerosmith | 04. Freaks and GeeksBad Reputation; Joan Jett and the Blackhearts | 05. She’s All ThatRockafeller; Skank Fatboy Slim | 06. CluelessKids In America; The Muffs | 07. Can’t Hardly WaitI Can’t Get Enough Of You, Baby; Smash Mouth | 08. 10 Things I Hate About YouI Want You To Want Me; Letters To Cleo |09. She’s All ThatKiss Me; Sixpence None The Richer | 10. Cruel IntentionsColorblind; Counting Crows | 11. Romeo + Juliet - Talk Show Host; Radiohead | 12. Dawson’s Creek - I Don’t Want To Wait; Paula Cole | 13. I Know What You Did Last SummerClumsy; Our Lady Peace | 14. Buffy The Vampire Slayer - Buffy Theme; Nerf Herder | 15. JawbreakerYoo Hoo; Imperial Teen | 16. Don’t Tell Mom the Babysitter’s Dead - Draggin’ The Line; Beat Goes Bang | 17. American PieMutt; Blink 182 | 18. Empire RecordsSugarhigh; Coyote Shivers | 19. Drive Me Crazy -  Keep On Loving You; The Donnas | 20. CluelessAlright; Supergrass | 21. Hayley Wagner, StarLook At Me; Geri Halliwell | 22. Teaching Mrs TingleSorry; Stretch Princess | 23. Wish Upon A StarHeaven; Moonpools and Caterpillars | 24.10 Things I Hate About You - Can’t Take My Eyes Off You; Heath Ledger | 25. Buffy The Vampire SlayerLittle Heaven; Toad The Wet Sprocket | 26. Empire Records - Til I Hear It From You; Gin Blossoms | 27. ElectionThis Road I’m Traveling; Mojave 3 | 28. That Thing You Do That Thing You Do; The Wonders | 29. TitanicMy Heart Will Go On; Celine Dion | 30. Drive Me Crazy(You Drive Me) Crazy; Britney Spears. [LISTEN]

00s MP3 Player: 01. A Walk To Remember - Someday We’ll Know; Mandy Moore and Jon Foreman | 02. A Cinderella Story - I’ll Be; Edwin McCain | 03. Down To You - Let’s Stay Together; Seal | 04. Juno - Anyone Else But You; The Moldy Peaches | 05. (500) Days Of Summer - She’s Got You High; Mumm Ra | 06. The O.C. - California; Phantom Planet | 07. Veronica Mars - We Used To Be Friends; The Dandy Warhols | 08. Mean Girls - God Is A DJ; P!nk | 09. Legally Blonde - Perfect Day; Hoku | 10. Bring It On - Hey Mickey; B*Witched | 11. The Princess Diaries - Miracles Happen; Myra | 12. Just My Luck - Just My Luck; McFly | 13. She’s The Man - 4Ever; The Veronicas | 14. Freaky Friday - What I Like About You; Lillix | 15. The Perfect Man - I Will Learn To Love Again; Kaci Brown | 16. Wild Child - Let Me Think About It; Ida Corr vs. Fedde Le Grand | 17. Boys and Girls - Can’t Stop The Rock; Apollo 440 | 18. Freaky Friday - Happy Together; Simple Plan | 19. Josie And The Pussycats - Three Small Words; Rachael Leigh Cook, Tara Reid and Rosario Dawson | 20. Save The Last Dance - All Or Nothing; Athena Cage | 21. Whatever It Takes - Charm Attack; Leona Naess | 22. Confessions of a Teenage Drama QueenThat Girl; Lindsay Lohan | 23. Lizzie McGuire - What Dreams Are Made Of; Hilary Duff | 24. Raise Your Voice - Someone’s Watching Over Me; Hilary Duff | 25. What A Girl Wants - Long Time Coming; Oliver James | 26. A Walk To Remember - Only Hope; Mandy Moore | 27. Get Over It - Dream Of Me; Kirsten Dunst | 28. The Notebook - I’ll Be Seeing You; Billie Holiday | 29. The Prince and Me - I Hope That I Don’t Fall In Love With You; Marc Cohn | 30. The Sisterhood Of The Traveling Pants - These Days; Chantal Kreviazuk. [LISTEN]

10s Smartphone: 01. Pitch Perfect Cups (When I’m Gone) Anna Kendrick | 02. Easy A Change Of Seasons Sweet Thing | 03. The Fault In Our Stars Boom Clap; Charli XCX | 04. Veronica Mars - Stick Up; Max | 05. Twilight - Black Hole; Muse | 06. Divergent - Beating Heart; Ellie Goulding | 07. Vampire Academy - Bela Lugosi’s; Dead Chvrches | 08. G.B.F. - Body Work; Morgan Page feat. Tegan & Sara | 09. The First Time - Wait For Me; Motopony | 10. Veronica Mars - Prosthetic Love; Typhoon | 11. Catching Fire - Silhouettes; Of Monsters And Men | 12. The Spectacular Now - Song For Zula; Phosphorescent | 13. Breaking Dawn - Turning Page; Sleeping At Last | 14. The Fault In Our Stars - All Of The Stars; Ed Sheeran | 15. The Hunger Games - Safe & Sound; Taylor Swift and The Civil Wars | 16. Beautiful Creatures - Never Too Late; Thenewno2 | 17. The To Do List - Fade Into You; Mazzy Star | 18. City of Bones - When The Darkness Comes; Colbie Caillat | 19. Vampire Academy - Spiritual; Katy Perry | 20. Divergent - I Need You; M83 | 21. The Bling Ring - All Of The Lights; Kanye West feat. Rihanna, Kid Cudi | 22. Pitch Perfect - Price Tag / Don’t You Forget About Me / Give Me Everything; The Barden Bellas | 23. Dirty Girl - Your Love; The Outfield | 24. The Perks Of Being A Wallflower - Heroes; David Bowie | 25. Easy A - Knock On Wood; Emma Stone | 26. It’s Kind Of A Funny Story - Where Is My Mind; Maxence Cyrin. [LISTEN]

By far the playlist that took me the longest to compile.

The point of the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge

the point of pouring a shit ton of ice water over yourself is because when one suffers from amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS) one of the affects the disease has is a numbness throughout the body, as well as struggling to breathe, and both these are meant to temporarily happen when doused in freezing water. It’s to raise awareness of what ALS feels like and encourage donations towards research and cures.

I can’t find any sources saying that this is the reasoning behind the challenge, although most articles are vague on the details beyond pointing to Pete Frates and Pat Quinn as the originators/inspirations…

(Source: aristoxxcracy)

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oftaggrivated:

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je-suis-cocopuff:

micdotcom:

Your bottled water habit is sucking California dry

If you’re reading this, chances are very high that your home has at least one — and maybe more! — magic appliance that produces clean water suitable for drinking. That’s one reason to avoid paying for bottled water.

Another reason? There’s a good chance the water you’re buying at the supermarket was bottled in California, a state currently enduring a severe drought.

Turn on the tap instead Follow micdotcom

(Images via MotherJones)

EVERYONE PLEASE AT LEAST TAKE A QUICK SECOND TO LOOK AT THIS

BECAUSE IT IS EFFECTING THE EXACT AREA I LIVE IN

Lots of people believe bottled water is safer and cleaner than tap water, when in reality there’s no evidence proving such a thing.

http://kids.nationalgeographic.com/kids/stories/spacescience/water-bottle-pollution/

http://edition.cnn.com/2013/11/19/health/upwave-bottled-water/

http://abcnews.go.com/Business/study-bottled-water-safer-tap-water/story?id=87558

Penn & Teller’s Bullshit!: Bottled Water segment, gives a very good and thorough summary of the bottled water culture https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MHx6BX3HZJc

You want better water? Buy a Zero filter. SRSLY. Stop buying bottled if possible. You need water with you? Get reusable acrylic or glass water bottles (wrapped in a silicon sleeve) and fill it up from your filter pitcher. SAVE MONEY, SAVE MY STATE

This is all incredibly important, some cities have as little as 60 -120 days left.  Try using a refillable water container, and if you’re a California resident, make sure to report water waste in public spaces.

Also, maybe take a second and sign the petition to stop a giant Slip n’ slide from being built in Los Angeles. Priorities.

Growing Up Poor Affects Adults' Sense of Control, Impulsiveness When Faced with Economic Uncertainty, Research Finds

More details and a PDF of the full study available at the link.

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